Moms are loving this positive parenting hair tie trick

If you ever feel like a "angry mom," this idea's for you

Moms are loving this positive parenting hair tie trick

If you ever feel like a "angry mom," this idea's for you

Raising little kids requires some serious patience. That's why a positive parenting hack is currently going viral on Facebook — and people can't get enough. The "hair tie trick" first appeared on the blog The Reformed Idealist Mom, after author Kelly Holmes realized she often lost her temper with her middle daughter. "Something about the preschooler-ness of my preschooler was turning me into an angry mother every time I opened my mouth to talk to her," she wrote. "I needed help." To get her attitude in check, she decided to keep a visual reminder close at hand — literally. Whenever she was with her kids, she'd put five hair ties on one wrist. It didn't have to be bands. They could be bracelets or loose rubber bands, but putting them on only when the children are around meant she wouldn't stop noticing them. (Plus, it helps protect your wrists.) If Kelly accidentally snapped at her kids, she'd move one hair tie over to the other arm, and then she'd have to "earn it" back by doing five positive acts instead. The goal was to have all five on the original wrist by the end of the day. While Kelly noticed a difference right away, she was even more shocked a few months later. "I thought all this was a fluke, that it would wear off over time, and I'd revert to being an angry mother with my middle kid," she wrote. "Months later, the hair tie trick is still working wonders. I talk to my preschooler with love and kindness in my voice instead of annoyance and frustration." The idea soon picked up steam on Facebook. "I'm going to be using this method until it becomes a habit and basically turns into an auto-pilot ritual," mom Shauna Harvey shared in a viral post."I beat my head against the wall daily because I don't understand why my 4-year-old insists on being disrespectful and a non-listener ... I know it's only day one but I'm hopeful this will help our communication skills and our relationship." Hundreds of commenters loved the concept. " I still feel this way with my 6 yo," one woman wrote. "I really want to try this!!" "This would work for any relationship," another person said. "It's a positive idea to make anyone feel more important to you." Now that she's been using the trick for over a week, Harvey has experienced a huge change in her relationship with her son too. "I've noticed that J responds better when I keep my voice low and ask what the problem is," she told GoodHousekeeping.com. "It helps because I don't get frustrated and he has time to 'work out' what he needs to do" Not only does it keep temper tantrums under control, but the reminder also helps her be a better role model. "As a mom, it's so easy to go straight to anger or frustration," Harvey said. "I think as parents we need a reminder every now and then that children are children and they are learning. We are their examples."

Raising little kids requires some serious patience. That's why a positive parenting hack is currently going viral on Facebook — and people can't get enough.

The "hair tie trick" first appeared on the blog , after author Kelly Holmes realized she often lost her temper with her middle daughter. "Something about the preschooler-ness of my preschooler was turning me into an angry mother every time I opened my mouth to talk to her," she . "I needed help."

To get her attitude in check, she decided to keep a visual reminder close at hand — literally. Whenever she was with her kids, she'd put five hair ties on one wrist. It didn't have to be bands. They could be bracelets or loose rubber bands, but putting them on only when the children are around meant she wouldn't stop noticing them. (.)

If Kelly accidentally snapped at her kids, she'd move one hair tie over to the other arm, and then she'd have to "earn it" back by doing five positive acts instead. The goal was to have all five on the original wrist by the end of the day. While Kelly noticed a difference right away, she was even more shocked a few months later.

"I thought all this was a fluke, that it would wear off over time, and I'd revert to being an angry mother with my middle kid," she wrote. "Months later, the hair tie trick is still working wonders. I talk to my preschooler with love and kindness in my voice instead of annoyance and frustration."

The idea soon picked up steam on Facebook. "I'm going to be using this method until it becomes a habit and basically turns into an auto-pilot ritual," mom Shauna Harvey shared in a .

"I beat my head against the wall daily because I don't understand why my 4-year-old insists on being disrespectful and a non-listener ... I know it's only day one but I'm hopeful this will help our communication skills and our relationship."

Hundreds of commenters loved the concept. " I still feel this way with my 6 yo," . "I really want to try this!!"

"This would work for any relationship," . "It's a positive idea to make anyone feel more important to you."

Now that she's been using the trick for over a week, Harvey has experienced a huge change in her relationship with her son too. "I've noticed that J responds better when I keep my voice low and ask what the problem is," she told GoodHousekeeping.com. "It helps because I don't get frustrated and he has time to 'work out' what he needs to do"

Not only does it keep temper tantrums under control, but the reminder also helps her be a better role model. "As a mom, it's so easy to go straight to anger or frustration," Harvey said. "I think as parents we need a reminder every now and then that children are children and they are learning. We are their examples."

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